He remembers being a shy middle child of a Vietnamese immigrant who could barely make eye contact with others. He wasn't in pickup mode, but when I saw a young Parisian woman ask him for a cigarette, he had her laughing and high-fiving faster than I would have thought possible.
He tried everything; speed dating, dating websites. I no longer have this unfulfilling love and sex life. Which affirms what my Chinese-Canadian friend Rebecca Gu once observed; "dating is a white person's game.
But that's not going to happen if they can't even ask a woman out on a date. What happens to all the Asian-American overachievers when the test-taking ends? The psychological effects of never having a mate, of never having anyone want you, can be devastating to any gender.